Stories • mar 11, 2026
Tut Said, Single Dad by Choice, Dad of Two via Surrogacy, and Retail Apparel Sales Executive
At 45, Tut Said chose to become a single dad, building his family of two through surrogacy and proving family is something you build with intention and love.
Tut Said shared, “For me, family is less about traditional definitions and more about the emotion of love.”
At 45, recently divorced and certain about his desire to become a parent, Tut made the decision to pursue fatherhood on his own. A conversation with another single dad by choice helped solidify what he already knew deep down. From that moment on, he never looked back.
His journey through surrogacy was filled with both joy and complexity. It was inspiring and deeply meaningful, but at times, it also felt isolating. With both of his surrogates living in different states, much of the experience happened from a distance. Through monthly video calls, virtual doctor’s appointments, and moments like attending the 20-week ultrasound and being present for both births, Tut stayed connected every step of the way.
While he never doubted his decision to become a parent, Tut faced the same fears many new parents do. Questions around logistics, childcare, and navigating life with not just one, but two infants, required him to grow quickly into his new role. What carried him through was a strong, supportive community and an unwavering belief in his path.
Before becoming a single dad by choice, Tut had already experienced life within a blended family. That experience shaped his understanding of what family could be, something rooted not in biology or traditional roles, but in love. Becoming a parent through surrogacy did not change that belief. It deepened and affirmed it.
Today, Tut continues to share that message with others considering a similar path. His advice is simple but powerful: you can do it. The journey may come with uncertainties, but nothing about it is impossible. Along the way, you may even build lifelong relationships, like the ones he still shares with both of his surrogates.
Tut’s story is a reminder that family is not something you fit into. It is something you build, with intention, resilience, and love.
